at some point a kid has to decide to be decent whether the parents were good or not. My father died at 36 from alcoholism, and my mother has an iq of 85, and had me taken away at the age of 10. She's not kept a home longer than about 2 years for about the last 20 years of her life. Does that mean I'm going to be a homeless alcoholic? No, eventually you have to take responsibility for your own life, and I don't think 13 or older is too early to ask for that. People who blame there parents for crap or just copping out and are dumbass's.