People tend to form relationships with people of their own mental level, not necessarily of their own physical level.
I don't think you can say this. I'm sure both objectively seen must have an equally important factor in forming relationships. A very low mental level and a very distinct difference in physical level clearly will make a relationship very much unlikely to begin with.
Perhaps it has to do with age and my own personal perspective here, but I definitely do not agree.
"I'm sure someone who looks very healthy is preferable over someone who's incredibly funny but looks like a tramp. It's exactly opposite of what you're saying here:"
Actually it is what I said. I said the person in the wheelchair must still be clean and not look like a tramp.
It was an example of how one would be naturally prevented from liking or falling in love with someone because of their appearance. Being or looking like a tramp is to some extent very comparable to why people wouldn't choose and definitely wouldn't prefer anyone with a physical disability.
I agree... and just as people do not necessarily choose the most reliable person they also do not choose the most physically able person. And so they are open to relationships with people in wheelchairs.
You've sort of stretched my opinion into it being a general thing though. I never claimed no one could fall in love with someone in a wheelchair. I just said I wouldn't. I still think people their preferences will always shine through in with which person they fall in love with. I will admit we're dealing with a lot of very different personalities, but people will always have their preferences. Many of those aren't even conscious, but to think our more serious conscious preferences can be easily disabled by love is just silly.
Physical attraction is only a minor part of a relationship. you may choose to pursue the physically attractive woman because of cultural pressure but the relationship would be of lesser value. remember that physical attraction is more of a cultural dynamic than a biological one.
It's commercialized, sure, but it's certainly still a very obvious biologic dynamic as well !!!
It's human psychology and has everything to do with the workings of social behavior as well. I'm not talking about commercial or cultural ideology here.
People will choose the better looking persons first, some might not dare, but they surely
would want to.
Whether ultimately the relationship by definition has a better chance of success, can not be said. After all, that would be a rather monogamous perspective on a case where someone would easily be a lot more successful in relationships when it comes to polygamous relationships!!
In other words, you think of such relationships as having less value, but you can't really say that.
Ultimately regardless of personality differences, someone who's looking very good, even without a compatible personality, will have a hugely increased chance of getting into relationships in the first place. Same goes for someone without a disability.
