I myself is new to this but sounds to me you want alot at the same time

Have you broken everything down and started a piece at the time?

If i understand correctly you want your player model be able to take control of a vehicle and move around in the level?

I think the most important part here is the model vehicle. I think you could use bones or animations to set up to open doors and open the engine-cowling.

I think the lights are programable in C-lite, perhaps setting specific bones as reference points for those lights.

Have you written some code already? Perhaps posting it here makes it easier for people to help you.

Btw, welcome to the forum.

Ed.
I am as green as grass when it comes to gamestuff