i tried something myself by using xinput with a dll from docjoey

here is a link for in lite-c
http://boxstr.net/files/6992681_f13eg/force_feedbacktest.zip
(if it give a advert just reload the page)

it only works for xbox360 controllers so you need a joypad to xbox360 emulator
http://virusdev.ovh.org/files/
(its not a virus) you need to go to xinputmenu-> latest version (now its 3.1.4.1.zip)
read the readme for how it works

for ps3 users just download montioninjoy cable and use the 360 emulator (you need a usb cable for this so its not wireless)

not to give you bad hope but i gues the forcefeedback doesnt give the right force back for your steeringwheel

this is only not the greates way so if some one can write a dll ore header that will be asome