yea you helped alot, I just motly worked with the code you gave me and the panel worked.
I found out how to make the mouse pointer disappear for anyone interested in making a panel.

I just put this

function startgame_function()
{
wait(1);
load_level(<mynewgame.wmb>);
start_game.visible = off;
main_pan.visible=off;
mouse_map=off;
mouse_mode=off;
}

both mouse_map and mouse_mode on off I did not put visible but just off and it worked.