No, I'm not. I apparently fail to communicate my point, though. So lets try again:

In the situation as it stands, yes.
There is a pissed ex who presents seemingly convincing "proof" of socially unacceptable behavior to the web.
But nobody really KNOWS how much of this is truly grounded and what her personal motivations are/were.
Yet that is reason enough for people to throw the worst stuff at her.
Because she MIGHT be guilty of inappropriate behavior.
And because human-human interaction is so superficial that if it looks like behavior XYZ it is simply XYZ.

Now you tell me that you don't approve of how she got called on XYZ, but you still think that it is a good thing that it happened anyway, because you have valid concerns regarding behavior XYZ.

I probably still didn't get your point. However, that's my impression so far.